Anyone who has shopped at a grocery store or a mall with children – especially young children – knows that the experience can sometimes be trying, even highly stressful.
Here are some steps that can change potential misery into potential mastery of shopping with kids.
Plan Ahead:
- Check attitudes – Is your child too tired or hungry to shop? Are you? If yes, postpone your trip or find a sitter for your child(ren)
- Explain the Rules – Before entering the store make your expectations clear, such as “Stay close to me” and “Use your quiet voice.”
- Agree on Rewards for Good Behavior – Keep it simple, such as a choice of a favorite snack food, or a stop at the park. Promise to read a story or play a game at home.
At the Store:
- Make a Game Out of Shopping – Who can see the bananas? Who can find the shoe store first? Who can see a person wearing red? Which store begins with the letter “t”?
- Give Children Some Choices – When possible, allow your child(ren) to make some decisions. Blue or red socks? Chocolate or vanilla ice cream? Be prepared to bargain or compromise.
- Play – “I see something.” Then ask your child(ren) what it is.
- Praise Your Child – “You are being so helpful.” A hug can be reassuring and say more than words at times.
If All Else Fails:
Remember: Kids will be kids – they are not perfect. Of course, neither are we, but we are the adults.
- Ignore inappropriate behavior unless it becomes dangerous, destructive, annoying to others or truly embarrassing.
- Remove a child who is out of control. Take him to the restroom or out of the store. Tell the child quietly, eye-to-eye, that bad behavior is absolutely unacceptable.
- Wait (say nothing at all) for the child to calm down, then ask if he is ready to try again.
- Go home if the child cannot calm down. If the shopping cannot wait, find a sitter and return alone.
This information is from Fairfax County’s
Blue Ribbon Campaign ...Keeping Kids Safe
www.fairfaxcounty.gov/dfs/childrenyouth/blue_ribbon_campaign.htm
Child Protective Services Hotline 703-324-7400: TTY 703-222-9452
Fairfax County Department of Family Services
12011 Government Center Parkway, Fairfax, VA 22035
www.fairfaxcounty.gov/dfs