Department of Family Services – Children, Youth and Families

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12011 Government Center Parkway, Pennino Building
Fairfax, VA 22035
Oriane Eriksen
Director

Foster Family News – 2022 October

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Welcome to the 2022 October issue of Foster Family News, a monthly newsletter for current and potential Fairfax County foster parents.  

Table of Contents
  • Raising Grandchildren: Stressful and Delightful
  • Remembering Daphne Saunders
  • Foster Care Unit Success Story: A Mother Overcomes Substance Use and Mental Health Issues
  • Children’s Bureau Express Spotlight on Kinship Care 
  • New Video: Skincare for Children in Transracial Families
  • Successful VPS Back-to-School Drive Supports Children in Foster Care
  • Events Central
  • Kinship Corner
  • Support Groups
  • Frequently Asked Question: What about transportation?  
  • Story in Stats: LGBTQ+ youth in foster care 
  • Foster Care Myths: You can’t foster if you are part of the LGBTQ+ community. 
  • Trainings and Conferences

 

Raising Grandchildren: Stressful and Delightful 

Shapiro family with SantaJerry Shapiro, 65, often spends time with his grandsons after school and on weekends kicking a ball around the yard, riding bikes, or heading to the local playground. Jerry and his wife, Michelle, are raising their two grandsons Cayden, 9, and Cameron, 7.

While it’s not the way they envisioned their later years, Jerry and Michelle are grateful that they are able to provide a stable, loving home for their grandkids.

Read more about their experiences and the way they have been supported by county services.

Remembering Daphne Saunders 

Daphne SaundersDaphne Saunders, a Social Services Specialist with our Foster Care and Adoption program recently passed away.

Join us in honoring Daphne by celebrating her life and remembering the positive impact she had on our department, her family and friends, and the broader community we serve.

Learn more about Daphne.
 

 

Foster Care Unit Success Story: A Mother Overcomes Substance Use and Mental Health Issues

Annandale Foster Care Unit 2022At only 2 years old, Harper* was separated from her birth mother and father due to their ongoing mental health and substance abuse issues.

DFS and Harper's foster parents worked with this family through various ups and downs to reach an unexpected outcome. Learn about their journey.

 

Children’s Bureau Express Spotlight on Kinship Care 

adults and children sitting on sofaThe September issue of Children’s Bureau Express (CBX) highlights kinship care and how placing children in need of out-of-home care with relatives can help them maintain connections to family, community, and culture.

This message from Associate Commissioner Aysha E. Schomburg features the lived experience of a kinship caregiver that addresses the importance of providing support to families who take in the children of relatives. It also includes valuable resources for professionals and the families they serve. Learn More.

New Video: Skincare for Children in Transracial Families

graphic for skin care videoThis video provides some basic skin care information to help ensure that your Black/African American or biracial child develops a healthy skin attitude, good skin care routine and prevents skin related issues.

This overview also provides specific information geared toward building the confidence of transracial foster and adoptive parents in this area.

Check it out!

Successful VPS Back-to-School Drive Supports Children in Foster Care

Jen Lilley with a girlIn August, staff from our Children, Youth and Families Division joined with hundreds of community volunteers to ensure children in foster care were ready for the school year. This “Christmas is Not Cancelled,” event was coordinated by Comfort Cases at their offices in Rockville.

Volunteers worked together to fill more than 2,000 backpacks with donations for children in the region. Participants had the chance to meet Virginia native, actress, and foster to adoptive mom, Jen Lilley who is one of the founders of Christmas is Not Cancelled.

Learn More. 

EVENTS CENTRAL

generic calendar graphicStop Banging Your Head Against the Wall: Options for Dispute Resolution in Special Education presented by Formed Families Forward 
Wednesday, October 12
7-8 p.m. 

Virtual

This session will look at the options available when parents and caregivers do not agree with the school’s decision regarding their child’s identification (or lack thereof), evaluation, educational placement, or services. This session will examine the rights of foster, adoptive, and kinship caregivers regarding dispute resolution, learn about the pros and cons, and receive helpful hints for preparing for dispute resolution. Register online


Department of Family Services graphic logoThe Department of Family Services supports families and county residents of all ages and stages of life – and that definitely includes foster parents and families! Like and Follow @FairfaxCountyFamilyServices for news, events, tips, stories, training opportunities and more.

KINSHIP CORNER

Kinship Support Groups hosted by A Second Chance Kinship Care
Second Tuesday Monthly beginning October 4
6-8 p.m. 

Groups will alternate between in person and virtual meetings. The first virtual meeting is Tuesday, October 4, and the first in-person meeting is Tuesday, November 8. RSVP to Jasmine Dukes by email or call 703-228-1556


Virtual Kinship Cafés hosted by the Department of Family Services’ Parenting Education Programs
First Wednesday and Third Thursday Monthly
6:30-8 p.m.
Kinship caregivers can talk with others who understand how difficult and joyful it can be raising a child for a family member or friend. Join us to discuss topics such as communication, self-care, and family dynamics.
Wednesday, October 5 we’ll discuss The Joys and Challenges of Kinship Care. Wednesday, November 2 will feature a Panel Discussion with a Fairfax County Public Schools' Social Worker, Counselor, Psychologist, and Parent Liaison.  Register by email or call 703-324-7720.

SUPPORT GROUPS

Formed Families Forward Peer Support Groups for foster and adoptive parents and kinship caregivers meet monthly through December 21. There is an in-person group in Fairfax meeting the third Wednesday from 7-8:30 p.m. and a virtual group meeting on the first Sunday from 7:30-9 p.m. Register online.


Formed Families Forward Stronger Together Youth Support Groups for teens and young adults (ages 14-22) meets weekly in person on Tuesdays, through November 1 from 6:30-7:30 p.m. in Fairfax City. Professional clinicians facilitate this peer support group which introduces skills youth can use to navigate everyday challenges and personal growth. A light dinner will be served each evening. FREE of charge but regular weekly attendance is expected. Register online


Foster the Family D.C. Support Groups for foster and adoptive parents – In-person support groups are available in Fairfax County, Eastern Prince William County, Western Prince William County, and Montgomery County. Each group meets one evening a month from 6:30-8 p.m. Visit Foster the Family D.C. to learn more about the group nearest to you, or to register online.



Each newsletter will include this section to help answer questions, spotlight the people who support foster families, highlight the donors and sponsors who generously give to foster care programs and activities and friendly reminders for foster families to sign-up for trainings.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

question marksQuestion: What about transportation?

Approval for out-of-country travel must be obtained from the director of the Fairfax County Department of Family Services. Efforts will be made to locate the birth parent to obtain permission for the trip. We will also need the following information from foster parents to obtain approval: 

•    Information about who will be accompanying the child or the caregiver responsible for the child during the trip. 
•    Details and an itinerary for the trip. 
•    Information about how the Department will be able to contact the caregiver accompanying the child in the event of an emergency.  

At a minimum, please submit requests for out-of-country travel at least four weeks before the anticipated travel dates. However, the foster care specialist will need the request eight weeks before the trip to ensure proper passports, visas, or other requirements for traveling out of country be obtained prior to the trip. The specialist will work collaboratively with the birth parent or foster parent to obtain this information. In addition, prior to leaving for the trip, the specialist must obtain a written assurance from the caregiver accompanying the child that he/she will provide for the child’s safety and legal needs during the trip. The specialist will provide the caregiver with authorization to obtain medical treatment.   
 
For planned out-of-state travel, foster parents should notify the specialist at least one week prior to the departure. For emergencies, foster parents should notify the specialist as soon as possible. The specialist will need to assess whether such travel conflicts with other activities, such as visits with birth family members. 
  
If foster parents are asking the Department to pay for any travel expenses, they will need to notify the Department at least 3 weeks prior to leaving. The Department will not reimburse any expense after the fact.  
 
Note: Traveling to D.C. and Maryland is not considered out-of-state travel.
 


Check out other frequently asked questions and answers from past issues.

Story In Statistics

LGBTQ+ youth in foster care

Studies indicate that about 30% of youth in foster care identify as LGBTQ+, compared with 11% of youth not in foster care, and that approximately 5% of youth in care identify as transgender, compared with 1% of youth not in foster care (Youth.gov). 

October 11 is celebrated as National Coming Out Day. Affirming and supporting youth is always the right thing to do, and for LGBTQ+ youth, it can be lifesaving. Even something as seemingly small as using a young person's preferred pronouns can have a tremendous impact on their well-being. Here are some additional resources

 

FOSTER CARE MYTHS

There are a lot of misconceptions about foster care, foster parents, and the children and families involved. This section aims to dispel some of those notions and provide clarity for those interested in supporting foster care.

Myth: You can’t foster if you are part of the LGBTQ+ community.

Fact: Sexual orientation or gender identity DOES NOT disqualify you from being a foster parent.



Check out other myths from past issues.

TRAININGS AND CONFERENCES

orange mechanical gearsVirginia’s KinFirst Culture hosted by Northern Region In-Service Training
Wednesday, October 5
Virtual via Zoom

6:30-8:30 p.m.
Register in advance for this meeting. For more information email Katie Lo Monaco, Northern Region CRAFFT Coordinator or call 703-296-8078.

Permanency Planning hosted by Northern Region In-Service Training
Thursday, November 3
Virtual via Zoom

6:30-8:30 p.m.
Register in advance for this meeting. For more information email Katie Lo Monaco, Northern Region CRAFFT Coordinator or call 703-296-8078.

If families complete a Northern Region In-Service training class, please send the completion info to your resource worker who will log it in ECMS and OASIS.


Trauma-Responsive Parenting Strategies for Parents and Professionals Conference hosted by North America Council on Adoptable Children 
Wednesday, November 9 
Virtual 

10:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. CST 

This one-day workshop is a must for current and prospective adoptive, foster, and kinship parents and the professionals who prepare and support them. Learn concrete skills and approaches for effectively using relationship-building to promote attachment and healing, and reduce challenging behaviors. Learn more about this conference and how to register.

Reimbursement is available to Fairfax County resource families that attend this training. Registration is for one person or a parenting couple who will be participating together. Families will need to register themselves, pay for the training, and attend. Once the training is complete, families can submit their receipt and completion certificate by email to Amanda Macaulay for reimbursement and training credit.  


Foster Parent College Training Highlight (October 2022) (For Fairfax County Foster Parents Only)
Foster Parent College (FPC) is a great way to obtain training on key topics from the safety and comfort of your home. FPC provides newly approved and seasoned foster parents with a curriculum designed to build new skills and reinforce information acquired from New Generation PRIDE (formerly PRIDE). As approved foster parents with Fairfax County, all classes are free and available to you 24/7. You may choose to take any class you believe will be helpful for your own personal growth and development.

Escalating Behaviors Unwrapped
This course explores escalation, its causes, and strategies for de-escalation. Trauma-Informed Parenting is a prerequisite for this course. Prerequisite: Trauma-Informed Parenting.

*The training will take approximately 1.5 hours to complete and fulfills 2.0 hours of on-line in-service training. You may take the class at your own pace.

Register Online

  • Log In with your log in credentials.
  • Scroll and select the course titled – Escalating Behaviors Unwrapped (Under the Behavior Management Tab)
  • Select Enroll to begin the course.

If you have questions or need additional support, please reach out to the in-service trainer, Terri Williams-Henderson. You may also contact FPC at 541-343-6636 or toll free at 1-800-777-6636, (PT) for technical difficulties. As always, once a class is completed, please email the certificate to Terri Williams-Henderson.


Orientation
Inservice (For certified Fairfax County foster parents. Registration required.)
Learn more and save the dates for upcoming trainings and conferences.

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