Department of Family Services – Children, Youth and Families

CONTACT INFORMATION: Monday–Friday 8 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
703-324-7500 TTY 711
12011 Government Center Parkway, Pennino Building
Fairfax, VA 22035
Oriane Eriksen
Director

Foster Family News – 2023 February

Foster Family News banner graphic

Welcome to the 2023 February issue of Foster Family News, a monthly newsletter for current and potential Fairfax County foster parents. Our monthly newsletter shares resources, news, tips, events, and trainings relevant to foster and adoptive parents, children in care, and the resource workers who support them.

Don't miss out on future postings; sign-up today!

 
Table of Contents
  • Get to Know Sarah Conner – Foster Care and Adoption Intern
  • Managing Tantrums and Outbursts – Supporting the Emotional Growth of Children
  • Foster Care Unit Success Story: A Young Adult Chooses Adoption into a Family that’s Perfect for Him
  • Foster Family News - Tax Deductions for Foster and Adoptive Parents
  • Take Off on the Faster Families Highway
  • Events Central
  • Kinship Corner
  • Support Groups
  • Frequently Asked Question: Who is permitted to babysit?
  • Story in Stats: the impact of mentorship
  • Foster Care Myths: You can’t be single.
  • Trainings and Conferences

 

Get to Know Sarah Conner, Foster Care Intern!

Sarah ConnerOur intern Sarah saw a need in society and felt drawn to being someone who can support and advocate for children when they most need it. Once she got to college and learned more about the field of social work, she knew it was for her. We are thrilled to have her in our program this year as part of her Master of Social Work program at George Mason University. Learn more about Sarah.

 

Managing Tantrums and Outbursts – Supporting the Emotional Growth of Children

angry child with arms crossedTantrums are a common occurrence. Children experience a trigger. They become agitated and anxious, which can lead to total meltdown. To help you get out ahead of these situations, we are sharing some possible triggers for children, some warning signs to keep in the back of your mind, and some techniques to de-escalate the tantrums. Learn more.

 

Foster Care Unit Success Story: A Young Adult Chooses Adoption into a Family that’s Perfect for Him

Reston Foster Care Unit: collage of six womenCheck out this story illustrating the importance of making a permanent connection for kids in foster care. Learn about a young adult who through the efforts of dedicated foster care workers and persistent foster parents now has a supportive family to come home to for the holidays, and parents he can call for help with any day-to-day life issues.

Tax Deductions for Foster and Adoptive Parents

person using calculator and laptopTax Season is upon us, and as a foster or adoptive parent you MAY be eligible for some tax credits for the children in your home. The Department of Family Services doesn’t employ tax experts, so we suggest that you talk with a tax professional for your individual income tax preparation decisions. However, we can offer some general tax information for your awareness.

 

Take Off on the Faster Families Highway

Faster Families HighwayDid you know that the state has launched a new online recruitment portal called Faster Families Highway? It streamlines the process for interested families to determine their readiness to become foster parents. It also will help DFS staff to determine if families are a good fit for our primary organizational goals of seeking reunification, safety, and permanency for children and families involved with foster care. Families will begin their journey to becoming foster parents by visiting our website, and accessing the Faster Families Highway Portal to complete an online form. Only once this is completed, will families be invited to an information session with our staff.

EVENTS CENTRAL

generic calendar graphicNOVA Parks Winter Light Shows

These fun, outdoor, family-friendly experiences feature unique light displays, opportunities for family pictures or selfies with a variety of displays, refreshments and ice skating at Cameron Run. Learn more or buy tickets.


Department of Family Services graphic logoThe Department of Family Services supports families and county residents of all ages and stages of life – and that definitely includes foster parents and families! Like and Follow @FairfaxCountyFamilyServices for news, events, tips, stories, training opportunities and more.

KINSHIP CORNER

Virtual Kinship Cafés hosted by the Department of Family Services’ Parenting Education Programs
Third Thursday Monthly
6:30-8 p.m.

Kinship caregivers can talk with others who understand how difficult and joyful it can be raising a child for a family member or friend. Join us to discuss topics such as communication, self-care, and family dynamics. The next Kinship Café will be held February 16 for a general discussion. Register by email or call 703-324-7720.


National Kinship Caregiver Support Group hosted by A Second Chance Kinship Care
Monthly on the Second Tuesday (except Wed, Feb., 15)
6-8 p.m. 
Groups will alternate between in person and virtual meetings through July 2023. RSVP to Jasmine Dukes by email or call 703-228-1556. 

SUPPORT GROUPS

Formed Families Forward Peer Support Groups for foster and adoptive parents and kinship caregivers. Each month, there's an in-person group in Fairfax meeting the third Wednesday from 7-8:30 p.m. and a virtual group meeting on the first Sunday from 7:30-9 p.m. The next meetings are February 5 and 15. Register online.


Formed Families Forward Stronger Together Youth Support Groups for teens and young adults (ages 14-22) meets weekly in person on Thursdays, February 9 through March 30 from 6:30-8:00 p.m. in Fairfax City. Professional clinicians facilitate this peer support group which introduces skills youth can use to navigate everyday challenges and personal growth. A light dinner will be served each evening. FREE of charge but regular weekly attendance is expected. Register online. 


Foster the Family D.C. Support Groups for foster and adoptive parents – In-person support groups are available in Fairfax County, Eastern Prince William County, Western Prince William County, and Montgomery County. Each group meets one evening a month from 6:30-8 p.m. Visit Foster the Family D.C. to learn more about the group nearest to you, or to register online.


Each newsletter will include this section to help answer questions, spotlight the people who support foster families, highlight the donors and sponsors who generously give to foster care programs and activities and friendly reminders for foster families to sign-up for trainings.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

question marksWho is permitted to babysit?

Answer: Anybody the foster parent deems is fit to take care of their child in the parent’s absence can babysit a foster child. The Department of Family Services does not need background checks for babysitters. The expectation is that the foster parent has vetted a potential babysitter and this is not ongoing childcare or daycare. A child’s special needs should be considered by the foster parent when choosing a babysitter. Note that we do need background checks on childcare providers for the children in care.


Check out other frequently asked questions and answers from past issues.

Story In Statistics

Story in Stats Mentors

 

 

 



Mentors are pillars in our communities, raising up local leaders, organizers, and changemakers that make our world better and brighter. Mentors help children dream bigger, reach higher and achieve more. Research shows that young people with mentors are: 

  • 52% less likely to skip school.
  • 78% more likely to volunteer regularly in their communities.
  • 130% more likely to hold a leadership position in a club or sports team.

Source: Mentor National, 2023
 

FOSTER CARE MYTHS

There are a lot of misconceptions about foster care, foster parents, and the children and families involved. This section aims to dispel some of those notions and provide clarity for those interested in supporting foster care.

Myth: You can’t be single. FALSE

Fact: No matter your marital status, you can be a foster parent to a child in need. Single, divorced and married (including LGBTQ couples) people are all welcome!


Check out other myths from past issues.

TRAININGS AND CONFERENCES

orange mechanical gearsIntro to Collaborative Problem Solving, hosted by Foster the Family DC 
Tuesday, February 28
Holy Trinity Church: 850 Balls Hill Rd. McLean, VA 22101
6-8 p.m. (Dinner served at 6 p.m. with training at 6:30 p.m.)

Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) offers a relational approach to building skills and resolving conflict in a way that creates lasting pathways in the brain. This approach works whether someone is momentarily “stressed out” or managing the long-term effects of trauma. Teaching these skills is most effectively accomplished when adults and children learn to address conflict in a collaborative and mutually satisfactory manner rather than relying on systems of rewards and punishments. Effective implementation of this model has demonstrated has resulted in positive results for children and parents. Trainers: Leslie Perez and Erica Mann of UMFS. Childcare will be provided. Register online.


Foster Parent College Training Highlight (February 2023) (For Fairfax County Foster Parents Only)
Foster Parent College (FPC) is a great way to obtain training on key topics from the safety and comfort of your home. FPC provides newly approved and seasoned foster parents with a curriculum designed to build new skills and reinforce information acquired from New Generation PRIDE (formerly PRIDE). As approved foster parents with Fairfax County, all classes are free and available to you 24/7. You may choose to take any class you believe will be helpful for your own personal growth and development.

Training Title: Understanding Birth Family Relationships

Description: Explores the range of openness in adoption, the birth connection, and birth relationships.

*The training will take approximately 1.0 hours to complete and fulfills 2.0 hours of on-line in-service training. You may take the class at your own pace.

Register Online

Log In with your log in credentials
Scroll and select the course titled – Understanding Birth Family Relationships (Under the Parenting Strategies Tab)
Select Enroll to begin the course.


If you have questions or need additional support, please reach out to the in-service trainer, Terri Williams-Henderson. You may also contact FPC at 541-343-6636 or toll free at 1-800-777-6636, (PT) for technical difficulties. As always, once a class is completed, please email the certificate to Terri Williams-Henderson.


Orientation
Inservice (For certified Fairfax County foster parents. Registration required.)
Learn more and save the dates for upcoming trainings and conferences.

SUGGESTIONS

envelopeWhat do you want to see in Foster Family News?

Submit your suggestions to Angela Morlu.
 

IN CASE YOU MISSED IT

Check out past issues of Foster Family News

Fairfax Virtual Assistant