As evidence of systemic racial injustice has unfolded these past few months, many parents and guardians of children of color are grappling with how to best support the children in their care. As an example, on June 30, 2020 in Fairfax County, 24% of the children in foster care were African American, while only 11% of foster parents are African American. So, many children (of color) are being cared for by foster parents of another race.
In addition, it is more important than ever to educate all children about the history of racism in our country and the importance of accepting others regardless of skin color.
Foster parents, no matter their race, must prepare themselves to have uncomfortable conversations with children about the history and culture of racial discrimination against Black and brown people. The ongoing trauma experienced by people of color through hate speech, humiliating and shaming events, or any other form of individual, historical, or institutional racism should not be ignored. As difficult as it may be, foster parents must be open in their communication with children (and when appropriate, their families) about these issues to allow them the freedom to seek support.
Child Trends has compiled an extensive article filled with resources to help guide these conversations. It includes several steps that caregivers can take to support all children, and especially those who have experienced direct or secondary racial trauma.
These tips include:
- Examine your own biases and experiences of racism. Learn about what others experience.
- Begin talking to children about racism early, around age 3 when racial bias begins to develop.
- Use age-appropriate understandable language (e.g. fair and unfair treatment as it relates to skin color).
- Limit children’s exposure to media and excessive coverage of racial events.
- Validate children’s emotions if they have experienced or witnessed racism.
- Reassure children of their safety.
- Provide guidance on navigating encounters with law enforcement.
- Focus on positivity and hope and the way to make a difference.
- Don’t be afraid to seek professional help.
Please read the entire article for more detailed resources for adults supporting African American children.
DFS Equity Statement
The Department of Family Services (DFS) is committed to addressing institutional racism in its core responsibility to support the safety, health and wellness of county residents. DFS recognizes systemic oppression and institutional racism have contributed to disparities in opportunities for county residents to succeed. DFS will support equitable outcomes by examining its polices, practices and procedures to eliminate disparities in service delivery and outcomes for county residents.
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