Department of Family Services – Domestic and Sexual Violence Services

CONTACT INFORMATION: Monday–Friday 8 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
703-324-5730 TTY 711
12011 Government Center Parkway, Pennino Building, Floor 7, Suite 740
Fairfax, VA 22035
Toni Zollicoffer
Director

Volunteer Voices – 2022 November

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Welcome to the 2022 November issue of Volunteer Voices, a monthly newsletter for current and potential Domestic and Sexual Violence Services (DSVS) volunteers.

In this Issue:

Table of Contents
  • Notes from the Staff
  • Self-Care Corner: The Sanctity of Mental Health Days
  • TED Talk: The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Love
  • Quotables
  • Partner Spotlight: The Korean Community Service Center
  • A Day in the Life...
  • Reviews: "Unbelievable"
  • Raising My Voice: Meet Erin Farmer, Counseling Intern
  • Birthdays
  • Test Your Brain
  • Educational Resources
  • Quarterly Trainings
  • Make A Note!

 

Notes from Staff

Hello, DSVS Volunteers!

Lydia GuirguisI am Lydia Guirguis, the Advocacy Services Supervisor. I have been working with Domestic and Sexual Violence Services’ (DSVS) Domestic Violence Action Center (DVAC) since April of this year. I’m still in the process of getting adjusted and learning new things about DSVS every day. Prior to working with Fairfax County, I worked for the City of Alexandria, supporting survivors of domestic and sexual violence. Volunteerism has an extra special place in my heart. I started my career as a volunteer providing emotional support to survivors of sexual violence and human sex trafficking at the hospital 14 years ago. That volunteer opportunity was so impactful and life-changing that it became a career. Words cannot express how grateful we are for your commitment to volunteering.

When I am not working, I love to travel and try new cuisines. I was born in Alexandria, Egypt and am fluent in Egyptian Arabic. I am a movie junkie. I am so grateful Netflix has new international movies to expand my collection.

Lydia Guirguis
Advocacy Supervisor

Self-Care Corner

woman sitting at table with coffeeThe Sanctity of Mental Health Days

If you’re so overwhelmed you can’t stop crying and a power nap just isn’t cutting it, you probably need more than a 15-minute walking break. It might be time for a mental health day. Learn more about the importance of adding mental health days to your self-care routine.


 

TED Talk: The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Love

Katie HoodIn a TED talk about understanding and practicing the art of healthy relationships, Katie Hood, CEO of the One Love Foundation, reveals the five signs you might be in an unhealthy relationship -- with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member -- and shares the things you can do every day to love with respect, kindness, and joy. "While love is an instinct and an emotion, the ability to love better is a skill we can all build and improve on over time," she says.

Quotables 

Two women smiling with laptop“The broadest, and maybe the most meaningful definition of volunteering: Doing more than you have to because you want to, in a cause you consider good.”— Ivan Scheier

 

 

Partner Spotlight: The Korean Community Service Center’s Mission Is in Their Name

group sitting on yoga matsThe Korean Community Service Center, founded in 1974 by a pastor and his congregation to help new immigrants from Korea acclimate to this country, has grown into the largest bilingual and bicultural Korean social service agency in the D.C.-metro area. KCSC has expanded from its original mission of providing the basics--transportation and translation--to prevention, victim services, counseling and more. Learn all about how this organization promotes the well-being and quality of life for Asian Americans.

A Day in the Life...

As you might imagine, DSVS Division Director Toni Zollicoffer’s days are anything but ordinary. Check out this slideshow for a brief glimpse into a “typical” day in her life.

Reviews

woman sitting on couch with popcorn"Unbelievable"

"Unbelievable" is a Netflix true crime miniseries about sexual assaults in Washington State and Colorado. The series tells the real-life story of Marie Adler, played by Kaitlyn Dever who was tied up, sexually assaulted, and photographed in her apartment. When Marie reported the assault to law enforcement, she was asked to share details of the rape repeatedly. As with many trauma victims, her story would at times contradict itself. I’d like to believe the officers were unaware of the impact the continuous re-telling of the assault would have on Marie. Unfortunately, the police officers began to doubt Marie’s story, and their questioning changed in approach and attitude. Marie appears to become skeptical herself about what happened, recants her statement, and is later charged with falsifying the report. Once news gets out about her falsifying the story, Marie loses several friends, and her circle of support dissipates.

Marie’s story is not uncommon. When victims feel challenged by law enforcement, medical providers, or their intended support systems, it often causes them to remember portions of the event and/or shut down. This reinforces the myth that many rape cases are false and ultimately causes victims to not come forward. According to a study from Brown University, only 4.5% of reported cases of sexual assault are false accusations. This should inform how we weigh allegations.

According to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAIIN), 2 out of 3 sexual assaults go unreported. Some reported reasons for not reporting are:

  • Fear of retaliation
  • Fear of revictimization
  • Fear of not being believed
  • Fear of consequence/prosecution for the person who caused the harm
  • An array of other emotions

Years later, two officers in Colorado who were investigating a series of sexual assaults with similar details linked them to Marie, proving her story to be true. While mainly sad and devastating, the 8-episode series has a beautiful ending. Marie is at the beach, and during a call with one of the officers, she says she can "now imagine good things happening." After Marie’s rapist was charged and convicted, she sued the city of Lynwood and won a settlement. It’s reported she then left the area and went on to have a fulfilling life. The series is worth watching and gives advocates a real-life view of what many victims of violence encounter when they report their victimization.

This review was written by Tanisha Cox, volunteer manager with Domestic and Sexual Violence Services.

Raising My Voice

Erin Farmer

Meet Erin Farmer, Counseling Intern
"The best part of my work is always the relationships I form with my clients. It is so rewarding to be able to see my clients making progress and achieving their therapy goals and to know I have played some part in someone’s healing journey" Read more about Erin's intern experience.

 

Birthdays

presentKelly Kramer, 5
Nana Boateng, 7
Sudha Bhat, 14
Karen Bilak, 16
Shenaz Valli, 18
Colleen Naseem, 21
Teresa (Teri) Douglas, 22
Donna Audritsh, 25
Joanne Springgs, 26
Safa Yosufzai, 26

Test Your Brain

Word ScrambleTake a stab at this month's brain teaser with this word scramble

 

 


 

Educational Resources

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Tier 2: Utilizing Social Supports to Address Vicarious Trauma
Wednesday, Nov. 30, 2-3:30 p.m.

Social service professionals may be at increased risk of vicarious trauma due to the nature of their work. This training will examine differences between vicarious trauma and burnout and propose strategies for minimizing impact of traumatic stress on service providers. Participants will explore their current self-care strategies and learn and practice how to incorporate them into their professional and personal lives. This training is free, but registration is required.

What kind of trainings interest you? Send your ideas to Tanisha Cox.


Quarterly Trainings

Quarterly Meeting Holiday Potluck
Wednesday, Dec. 14, 6-8 p.m.

Join us to celebrate you and the holidays, potluck style! Please add the dish you will bring to the sign-up list. There will be a training on vicarious trauma, self-care, appreciation gifts, and an ugly sweater contest! This is a family friendly event. Registration required.

Make a Note!

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Please take a moment to log on to your Volunteer Management System (VMS) account and log your hours for the month of October. Please also log any time you spent on training under “volunteer training.” If you do not see this selection under your opportunities, please email Tanisha Cox, and she will log on to add it to your account. 

  • Please enter your hours for each day you volunteered and not as a lump sum.

  • If you need to log hours for a previous month, please email Tanisha Cox to let her know so she can be aware of the entry and expedite the approval process.

 


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