Department of Family Services – Domestic and Sexual Violence Services

CONTACT INFORMATION: Monday–Friday 8 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
703-324-5730 TTY 711
12011 Government Center Parkway, Pennino Building, Floor 7, Suite 740
Fairfax, VA 22035
Keesha Coke
Director

Volunteer Voices – 2024 June

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Welcome to the 2024 June issue of Volunteer Voices, a monthly newsletter for current and potential Domestic and Sexual Violence Services (DSVS) volunteers.

In this Issue:

Table of Contents
  • Notes from the Staff
  • Self-Care Corner: Rediscover Reading
  • Going for the Grants
  • TED Talk
  • June Is Pride Month
  • June Is Fatherhood Month
  • Quotables
  • Partner Spotlight: Ayuda – Wrap-Around Services for Low-Income Immigrants
  • Join the Conversations!
  • Reviews: The Troubling Trend in Teenage Sex
  • Raising My Voice: Meet Justina Johnson, Hospital Accompaniment Support Advocate and ADAPT Co-Facilitator
  • VV FAQ
  • Birthdays
  • Fascinating Facts
  • Test Your Brain
  • Events and Educational Resources
  • Make a Note!
  • Parting Shot

 

Notes from Staff

Photo of Ravinder SinghMy name is Ravinder “Ravi” Singh, and I recently joined the Department of Family Services in the Domestic and Sexual Violence Services (DSVS) division in February 2024 as a management analyst II, focusing on Cross-Division Services. Prior to joining DSVS, I earned my master’s in data analytics from George Mason University, which paved the way for my career in various data-centric roles within the automotive, advertising, and solution provider sectors. My 4+ years of experience have equipped me with a broad skill set, which I am eager to apply and expand here at DSVS. I am particularly looking forward to learning from the distinguished leaders and team members within the organization.

Throughout my career, I have been deeply committed to social service and community engagement. During my college years in India, I volunteered at tribal schools and played a key role in organizing community kitchen services. At DSVS, I aim to leverage my expertise to support various teams, helping them harness data to drive informed decision-making processes.

In my leisure time, I am an avid reader of technology blogs, always keen to stay abreast of the latest technological advancements. I am truly grateful for the opportunity to be a part of such an amazing team at DSVS and am excited about the contributions I can make.

Ravi Singh
Management Analyst II
Cross-Division Services

Self-Care Corner: Rediscover Reading

woman reading a book Studies have found a correlation between reading and mental stimulation and brain function, lower heart rate, decreased blood pressure and stress reduction. In fact, just six minutes of a page-turner is more calming than other de-stressors, such as a cup of tea or listening to music. Learn ways to rediscover reading.

 

Going for the Grants

dialed in with DCJS Victim Services logoRecently, Domestic and Sexual Violence Services staff Keesha Coke, assistant division director; Andrea Nunes-Gardner, Crisis Response Services program manager; Melody Vielbig, Clinical Services program manager; and Patti Conway, financial specialist in the Department of Family Services, were guests on Dialed In with DCJS Victim Services, a podcast about Virginia’s victim services. On the hour-long episode, they discussed their secrets to successful grant management, the important role collaboration plays in their organizational success, and how they employ strategic planning to stay focused on the impact of their work and to be intentional with the resources DSVS uses and the services it provides.
 

TED Talk

TED Wording In honor of Dads, Juneteenth, and Pride—all of which we celebrate this month--we invite you to take a look at this compilation of videos:

June Is Pride Month

pride month graphic On June 27, 1969, New York police raided Stonewall Inn, a bar located in New York City’s Greenwich Village, well known to the city’s LGBTQIA+ community. Police raids on gay bars were common, and on this night, the growing tensions set off a riot against the brutality and discrimination LGBTQIA+ people were facing. While this was not the first protest of its kind, activist groups, including The Mattachine Society, Gay Activists Alliance, and the Gay Liberation Front, organized a march on the anniversary of the riots with the theme of “Gay Pride.” In the years that followed, other organizations and cities developed pride parades across the country and these celebrations expanded to the entire month of June. President Bill Clinton issued the first proclamation of Pride Month in the United States in 1999. Research shows LGBTQIA+ communities face significant barriers to accessing support when experiencing violence. Learn more about the intersection of interpersonal violence and LGBTQIA+ communities.

June is Fatherhood Awareness Month

fatherhood awarenessFathers matter. Whether it’s giving his baby a bath, learning how to braid a daughter’s hair, helping with virtual schooling, eating together with family, or cheering from the stands, dads are vital in the upbringing of their children. A father’s influence continues to be important as children grow up. When dads talk with older kids about their daily lives, help them with college and career decisions, and share parenting wisdom with their adult kids, the impact is immeasurable.

Research tells us when dads are involved in the lives of their children, those children tend to be more psychologically and emotionally balanced and tend to have better social skills, higher grades, and stronger parenting skills when they start their own families. When fathers are involved, children are less vulnerable to childhood poverty, substance abuse, juvenile delinquency, and teen pregnancy.

June is Fatherhood Awareness Month, and Fairfax County is taking this opportunity to celebrate fathers.
 

Quotables

Hands holding a heart“I’ve learnt that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.”–Maya Angelou
 


Each newsletter will include this section to help share reviews, spotlight the people who support Domestic and Sexual Violence Services, recognize birthdays and list upcoming trainings and meetings.

Partner Spotlight

Ayuda logoAyuda – Wrap-Around Services for Low-Income Immigrants

Ayuda provides legal, social, and language services to help low-income immigrants access justice. Find out how this nonprofit, one of the 16 partners that works in conjunction with the Domestic Violence Action Center (DVAC), has served more than 150,000 low-income immigrants throughout the Washington, D.C., metropolitan area. Learn more about this partnership.

 

Join the Conversations!

unscripted logoDomestic and Sexual Violence Services has a podcast, Unscripted: Conversations about Sexual and Domestic Violence. Stay in the know with these biweekly discussions! In observance of awareness months, give a listen to the Dads as Caregivers and the Violence in LGBTQ+ Relationships episodes.

Reviews

five starThe Troubling Trend in Teenage Sex

I didn’t get around to having children, and this New York Times article, “The Troubling Trend in Teenage Sex,” makes me kind of glad. In it, author Peggy Orenstein interviewed American sexual behavior researcher Debby Herbenick, and together they sound the alarm about the rapid rise of rough sex, particularly strangulation, among college students and teens.

Here’s one particularly frightening statistic revealed in the article: “Nearly two-thirds of women in Herbenick’s most recent campus-representative survey of 5,000 students … said a partner had choked them during sex (one-third in their most recent encounter). The rate of those women who said they were between the ages 12 and 17 the first time that happened had shot up to 40 percent from one in four.”

Once relegated to porn and BDSM, strangulation has become commonplace, according to Orenstein. The article cites TV shows (“Californication,” “Euphoria,” and “The Idol”), movies (“Fifty Shades of Grey” and the 2024 “Mean Girls” reboot), and music (Jack Harlow’s popular “Lovin on Me”) as a few examples of how the practice has eased into the lexicon of pop culture.

Orenstein says she’s not sex shaming adults who include strangulation as part of a consensual sex life. According to her, the purpose of the article is to inform, but it takes readers until halfway through the opinion piece to get to the nitty-gritty: Strangulation, which restricts blood flow to the brain, has health consequences many adults, including some medical professionals, educators, and many parents, don’t quite grasp; if the adults don’t get it, it’s clear teens don’t either. For the record, these consequences include lightheadedness, headaches, neck pain, temporary loss of coordination, ringing in the ears, cognitive impairment, stroke, and possible death.

If education is the intended purpose of “The Troubling Trend,” it waits until very late to give parents—the article’s audience--tips for talking to their teens about consent, setting boundaries, and the potential dangers of strangulation. Orenstein dedicates far too much real estate to scare tactics.

This article was written by Kendra Lee, communications specialist in the Department of Family Services.
 

For an in-depth discussion about strangulation, check out the Unscripted: Conversations about Sexual and Domestic Violence—The Deadly Details about Strangulation episode.

 

Raising My Voice

Photo of Justina JohnsonMeet Justina Johnson, Hospital Accompaniment Support Advocate & ADAPT Co-Facilitator

“I wish I could affect policy to have programs like ADAPT taught in schools as a requirement,” says Justina Johnson, HASA volunteer and ADAPT co-facilitator. “I wish we could reach people sooner and prevent these tragedies from ever happening.” Learn more about Justina’s volunteer journey.

 

 

VV FAQs

Q: What is the time commitment to volunteer for Domestic and Sexual Violence Services?

A: DSVS asks volunteers to commit to at least one year of service after training. ADAPT volunteers give between 8 and 10 hours per month; Hotline volunteers give 6 or 12 hours each month.
 

Birthdays

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May’s birthstone is the emerald, which was mined in Egypt as early as 330 B.C. and used as jewelry and in elaborate burials as a symbol of protection. Historical figures such as Cleopatra were known to cherish emerald gemstones. Today, the emerald is a symbol of loyalty, new beginnings, peace, and security. The emerald remains prized by the rich and famous. Elizabeth Taylor sold her famous emerald pendant for $6.5 million in 2011.

Katherine Leon, 10
Julia Selah, 12
Sandy Guy, 13
Vanessa Elsasser, 19
Gabriela Pinto, 23
Victoria Whelan, 25
Willmara Moye, 28
 

Fascinating Facts
June Infographic Statistic
Test Your Brain

Do the math! Source - Readers Digest

 

Math Puzzle 11. Which number should replace the question mark? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Math Puzzle 22. To open this safe, you have to replace the question marks with the correct figures. You can find this figure by determining the pattern behind the numbers shown.

 

 

 

 

 

Math Puzzle 33. Which number should replace the question mark to form accurate equations, knowing that three numbers are shown per row (i.e. two of the numbers form a two-digit number)?

 

 

Answer key

 

Events and Educational Resources

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Question, Persuade, and Refer Suicide Prevention Training
This is a new training requirement under the accreditation standards. There are two opportunities to complete this Community Services Board training during June. This training is free, but registration is required.

 


Volunteer Orientation
We’re always looking for a few good volunteers! If you know anyone interested in volunteering with DSVS, please let them know about two in-person orientations for prospective volunteers in June. The sessions include an introduction to DSVS, our services, a breakdown of volunteer opportunities, and steps to get you started! These in-person sessions will be held at the Fairfax County Community Services Room in Tysons Corner Center (1961 Chain Bridge Road (2nd level outside Nordstrom), McLean, VA 22102). For more information or to register, contact Tanisha Cox:

  • Monday, June 17, 4:30 p.m.
  • Monday, June 17, 6:30 p.m. 

Welcome to DSVS for New Volunteers
Saturday, June 22
9 a.m.-1 p.m.
Pennino Building
12011 Government Center Pkwy
Room 200/206
Fairfax, VA 22035

This training is for new volunteers with Fairfax County Domestic and Sexual Violence Services who have attended or are registered to attend Tier One training. Welcome to DSVS for New Volunteers is free, but registration is required. If you are interested in volunteering but have not attended a Volunteer Orientation, please reach out to Tanisha Cox.


Volunteer Quarterly Meetings
Volunteers meet quarterly for updates, announcements, training, etc. Meetings are typically held during the week from 6-8 p.m., in person or virtual. The first hour is dedicated to the above and relevant for all volunteers. During the second hour, volunteers are placed in separate rooms (virtual or in person) for program specific updates. If you serve in multiple capacities, don’t worry: We got you covered! Below are the dates for the rest of 2024. Reminders will go out regularly, but please mark your calendars.

  • Jun. 25, 6-8 p.m. (virtual) registration
  • Aug. 1, 5-7 p.m. (in-person) volunteer network event, location TBD
  • Sep. 26, 6-8 p.m. (virtual) registration link will be forthcoming.
  • Dec. 19, 6-8 p.m. (in-person) End of the year celebration, location TBD

Sexual Violence Tier One
Wednesday and Thursday, June 26 and 27, 2024
8 a.m.-5 p.m.
Fairfax County Government Center
12000 Government Center Pkwy
Conference Room 2/3
Fairfax, VA 22035

Sexual Violence Tier One is a 16-hour training on understanding sexual violence, systems responding to sexual violence in Fairfax County, and resources available in our community. This training is for professionals, volunteers, and community members looking to learn how and why sexual violence happens; the impact of sexual violence on individuals, families, and communities; and how to support those impacted. It is free, but registration is required. This training is full; to join the waitlist, contact Abby Picard.


Domestic Violence Tier One
Wednesday and Thursday, July 10 and 11, 2024
8 a.m.-5 p.m.
Fairfax County Government Center
12000 Government Center Pkwy
Conference Room 2/3
Fairfax, VA 22035

Domestic Violence Tier One is a two-day training on the dynamics of domestic violence, systems responding to domestic violence in Fairfax County, and resources available in our community. This training is for professionals, volunteers, and community members looking to learn about the dynamics of domestic violence and its impact on individuals, families, and communities. It is free, but registration is required. This training is full; to join the waitlist, contact Abby Picard.


Make a Note!

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Please take a moment to log on to your Volunteer Management System (VMS) account and log your hours for the month of May. Please also log any time you spent on training under “volunteer training.” If you do not see this selection under your opportunities, please email Tanisha Cox, and she will log on to add it to your account.  

Please enter your hours for each day you volunteered and not as a lump sum. If you need to log hours for a previous month, please email Tanisha Cox to let her know so she can be aware of the entry and expedite the approval process.

 

Parting Shot

volunteer event from May 4Domestic and Sexual Violence Services celebrated the contributions of its volunteer corps on Saturday, May 4, at the Sully Community Center. It was an afternoon of food, fellowship, and fun!

 

 

 

 

 


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