(Published 2023 September)
Social butterfly or wallflower? It doesn’t matter; we are all feeling a little more lonely these days. Too much time in isolation can lead to sleep difficulties, increased heart problems, memory issues, and elevated stress levels.
And it’s not just a side effect of the pandemic. Research shows feelings of isolation started well before 2020, due in some part to social media—and also to families living farther apart and a disconnect with faith groups. In fact, 80% of people younger than 18 and 45% of those older than 65 report being lonely. This decline in social networks isn’t just hard on extroverts. Even introverts crave connection. Humans are hardwired for social interaction.
Though we’re more digitally connected than ever, endless scrolling doesn’t bridge the gap. This is what can:
- Adopt a pet. If you already have a fur baby, you know the benefits of having a pet. If you don’t have a pet, think about heading to your local animal shelter. Research suggests having a pet can lower blood pressure, improve your mood, and ease stress.
- Talk to strangers. Even trivial interactions with strangers—the coffee shop barista or the cashier at the auto body shop— may be able to keep loneliness at bay. So, say a simple hello to a fellow elevator passenger, ask how they are, or chat about whatever's on your mind. These small acts, research says, can make a big difference helping you reduce feelings of loneliness.
- Embrace mother nature. Hike, take a drive down a scenic road, head to the beach. If you work from home, find an outdoor space for your office when the weather allows. Research shows spending time in nature can be a game changer when you’re lonely.
- Organize a reunion. Give it a theme with a dress code. Have everyone bring their favorite dessert. Not feeling up to a gathering of hundreds? Invite a few close friends for coffee or dinner.
- Volunteer. Taking time out of your schedule to help someone in the community can unlock joy.
We all feel lonely sometimes. But if you can’t shake these feelings, you might need to talk with a counselor or therapist. Find out if your workplace has an Employee Assistance Program; this free and confidential benefit can provide access to experts trained to deal with myriad issues, including loneliness.
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